WHAT YOU'RE NOT CHANGING, YOU'RE CHOOSING.
Over time, the conditions of life we find ourselves often shape the type of decisions we make, the way of life we adopt, the relationships we choose to be in, and even what we think we're worth.
These conditions however, can be negating to our growth and success.
Say you have a friend who can't differentiate play from crossing certain boundaries, and there you are, making no effort to correct or set firm boundaries between you. Then you're indirectly CHOOSING to be disrespected.
A person in a workplace, where employees’ inputs and contributions are not valued nor appreciated, and is unhappy about it but chooses to remain, is CHOOSING such a condition.
A man or woman in an abusive or toxic relationship but does nothing to salvage the situation is giving him/herself up for violation. You're saying you are comfortable with whatever is thrown at you. After all, we accept the love we think we deserve.
You can't want growth and be comfortable doom scrolling. They're on the opposite side of the coin.
You can't settle for less if being on the pedestal of success is what you want.
When your goals and principles are not in alignment with what you have at hand or is looking to have…
where you find yourself or is looking to be…
who you find yourself with or is wanting to be with…
the decisions you've earlier made or are wanting to make…
things you've done before or are wanting to do…
or whatever area of your life that's in misalignment with your definition of growth and success (because they differ from persons), CHANGE it!
Move away from friends who don't respect your boundaries.
Leave a partner who you don't find peace being with, who's not your safe space.
Change a working environment that seeks to stunt your creativity or thinking power, or one that put you in a fixed mindset.
Choose peace.
Choose growth.
Choose a safe love.
Choose boundaries over violation.
There should be things you're never find doing, places you're never find going or even people you're never find being with. If it has happened, there's no beating yourself up for it.
Rather, make a move to change it. Take a step. And one more. Then another. Slowly. Steadily. You'll get there.
Remember, what you're not changing, you're CHOOSING. So, change.
The Zulikha Adeola
© Souldoctor
11-12-2024